Mom shaming is real my friends. I literally see it everywhere. Even on a different continent, mom shaming crosses all boundaries.
As mothers, or just as people living in the same World, it is so important to build each other up instead of tearing each other down. It is so much easier to show kindness than to be cruel to one another. Or if you are not in the mood to show kindness, just don’t say anything at all. So simple.
You never know how your actions are going to affect someone. You never know if that cruel word or that nasty look is the last thing they will see, if it will stick with them, or if it will cause them pain. They may be resilient and not let it affect them but it could also cause a deeper cut than you had any intention of inflicting.
Recently, I was on an international flight with my 16 month old son and he (like any baby) was getting a little upset. And instead of sticking in some head phones or just giving him a minute, the woman in front of us glared back at me every time he so much as made a grunt. She complained to the flight attendant instead of saying something to me.
I was so anxious getting onto that flight. The added anxiety of another woman glaring through the seat at me (making eye contact) just made it so much worse. Sometimes, babies get upset at some point and time on a 14 hour flight. It’s inevitable. Being cruel in this situation, or any for that matter is not going to help the situation. It’s not going to make it better. It certainly is not going to help him stop being upset.
When we immediately show condescending disdain to others, it doesn’t help anyone. It doesn’t help us, it doesn’t help them. All it does is give the already anxious mom doing everything she can to keep her baby happy even more anxiety.
I will never understand why people feel the need to be so rude and condescending to young moms. Most of the time they are literally doing everything they can, with mounting anxiety, to make it better and keep their child happy.
The people that I see giving me or other moms those awful looks are almost always women of child bearing age. Why do we have to do this to each other? Would it seriously be so hard to either not make any look at all or smile with encouragement?
One of my favorite sayings that I always tell myself is “You never know what someone is going through, so always be kind”.
A little kindness goes a long way. It can literally change someone’s entire day. It can set the tone for a difficult journey. It can give someone hope for the future.
Can you imagine that? Something so small that literally takes zero effort on our parts, can mean so much to someone else. So why wouldn’t you?
The next time you see someone struggling, whether it be a mom or just a person who looks a little down, offer some encouragement. It could just be a smile, a kind word, or a greeting. You never know who’s day you might turn around or what impact that will have, regardless of how small.
Best part: it makes you feel better too. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: joy is contagious. When you are spreading happiness or doing something kind, it makes you feel happy too. So go spread the joy my friends.